Here is a very interesting quote from the book "Victories of the Martyrs" dealing with how the early Christians treated their family members that would not convert to the true faith in the midst of all of the persecution.  Just something to think about........

"James, overcome by the fear of losing his property and the honors he enjoyed at court obeyed the iniquitous decree [of the Persian persecutors]. But his mother and his wife, most exemplary Christians, who were then absent, having heard of his fall, wrote to him a letter, in which, after exhorting him to repair his grievous error, they said: "If thou wilt not return to the good path from which thou hast departed, we shall treat thee as a stranger, and separate from thee; it behooveth us not to have any communication with one who has abandoned his God to please men, and to secure to himself the perishable things of this life, which will cause him to perish everlastingly." Victories of the Martyrs, page 80.